You are very brave, Réka, for standing up for calmness, common sense, and peace despite the flood of online hatred.
For us mothers, it is especially heartbreaking to read day after day about war, sending weapons, and the possible reintroduction of conscription.
Let’s stand up for one another. Let’s speak out together against war.
Hi everyone!
Day after day, I am confronted on social media with verbal warfare that is beyond qualification — more vulgar than vulgar. Those of you who do this: do you ever stop to breathe? Do you ever look up from tearing each other apart?
As a mother of three, calmly and independently of everything and everyone, I ask: where does this lead?
To peace? Is this the example we want to set for our children — for whom we are mentors? They will grow into the kind of adults we are. They will communicate the way we do — if this can even be called communication.
As for me, I want peace. Peace here within our country, and peace among people.
But let me ask: do we really believe this kind of behavior can lead to peace? Do we think war will somehow pass us by if we line up behind those who support Ukraine?
My eldest son is a reservist soldier. If there is war, he will be called in. He will be taken to defend the homeland he swore to protect. And they will take your sons, your husbands, your fathers too — whether they want to go or not. Because that is what war is about.
War does not choose. There is no “I’d rather not,” no “this hurts,” no “that hurts,” no “I don’t have time.” War is not a fairy tale we can believe will happen to someone else but never to us — like the stories we listened to as children, with tight throats, from our grandparents.
The reality of war is circling around us. And it is our responsibility to protect our children — to make sure they do not become its victims along with us.
Think about this. Because our fate is in our hands.
🔴 1️⃣ Bringing in an Ally – “You are very brave, Réka…”
📌 Technique: social proof + moral alliance
Alexandra is not speaking alone.
She brings in another woman (Réka) and:
- praises her (“you are brave”)
- elevates her morally (“calmness, common sense, peace”)
- creates a shared identity (“for us mothers”)
👉 This transforms the message from a single opinion into a “maternal community position.”
This reduces resistance:
if multiple “similar” people say it → it feels more true.
🔴 2️⃣ “Mothers” as a Moral Shield
📌 Technique: identity framing + moral shield
“As a mother of three, I ask…”
This is a key sentence.
The “mother” role implies:
- care
- sacrifice
- protection
- moral purity
👉 Anyone arguing against her is implicitly not arguing with her reasoning —
but with “a mother.”
This creates a strong emotional protective shield.
🔴 3️⃣ Linking Verbal Hatred to the Threat of War
📌 Technique: fear stacking + escalation
The constructed logical chain:
online vulgarity
→ moral decay
→ pro-war thinking
→ conscription
→ our sons will be taken
→ they may die
❗ There are several logical jumps here:
- no evidence that domestic political conflict = war
- no concrete decision about reinstating conscription
- no actual mobilization
👉 But emotionally it works because
“losing your child” is the strongest possible fear trigger.
This moves the message to an existential-level threat.
🔴 4️⃣ Personal Example – “My eldest son is a reservist”
📌 Technique: personalization + fear embodiment
This is the strongest part.
It’s no longer abstract:
“my son will be taken.”
Then she expands it:
“your sons will be taken too.”
This activates collective anxiety.
👉 The result:
the audience is no longer evaluating policy —
they are reacting with maternal panic.
🔴 5️⃣ False Dilemma
📌 Technique: false dichotomy
The built-in choice is:
peace (with us)
war (if you support Ukraine)
There is no middle ground.
No NATO framework.
No geopolitical nuance.
No security-policy context.
Just:
“if you support it → your son will be taken.”
It is powerful — but simplified.
🎯 What Are They Trying to Achieve?
- Emotional identification (community of mothers)
- Moral superiority (we stand for peace)
- Fear-based mobilization
- Redirecting fear of war into political alignment
- Creating an enemy image: “supporters of Ukraine”
They are not discussing:
- a concrete program
- legal realities
- military facts
👉 They are discussing fear.
🧠 What Is the Strongest Manipulative Element?
Framing war as:
- imminent
- inevitable
- personally threatening
This is called:
anticipatory fear conditioning
(preemptive fear conditioning)